Possessing vs. Loving Others and Understanding Modesty

Fr. Josh answers questions about the difference between possessing others versus authentically loving them, and how to properly understand modesty, and why how we dress matters.

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St. Joseph loved Mary, but his love did not posses her, he reverenced the fact that she was a gift. The root of our clinging and possessing is ultimately fear.



Healthy Detachment

What does healthy spiritual detachment look like in the context of friendships and relationships with other people? I’m struggling with what it means to love others but also to practice detachment from them. If I’m detached from people, does it mean I love them less?


Understanding Modesty

Hello Father Josh!

I’m trying to find a balance between modesty and female empowerment as it pertains to dress codes and clothing guidelines. I am a secondary teacher and coach both male and female athletes. I want to be able to guide both genders on how to balance this topic.

I watched a video on Instagram of a young woman voicing concern about her high school’s dress code to the school district board:This completely blew my mind. She pointed out that other people, namely men, are sexualizing girls’ and women’s bodies and basing the dress code on that. Why are others assuming boys can’t control themselves and why do girls/women have to change the way they dress based on others’ ability to control themselves?  I can completely understand her argument and frustration.

On the other hand, I do believe that our bodies are God’s creation and should only be shared with our spouses once we are married and become one flesh. I also have always had classroom rules, and comfort levels, that everything is covered up from shoulders to knees no matter your gender. I don’t know that that is fair anymore.

Women shouldn’t be forced to dress based on other people sexualizing their bodies but there is also something to be said for dressing modestly and saving parts of yourself for your future spouse. Do you have any thoughts on how to find the balance and help guide the younger generation?

Thank you,

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Meet Fr. Josh Johnson

While Fr. Josh was raised Catholic, he didn’t like the Church growing up. Then, one day in adoration, he fell in love with Jesus and received the call to become a priest.

Now, Fr. Josh is the Vocations Director of the Diocese of Baton Rouge in Louisiana. He is a presenter in four of Ascension’s programs: Altaration, YOU: Life, Love, and the Theology of the Body, The 99, and Connected: Catholic Social Teaching for This Generation, as well as the author of Broken and Blessed: An Invitation to My Generation, Pocket Guide to Adoration, and co-author of Pocket Guide to Reconciliation.

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