There is no Scripture verse or Catechism reference that answers the question, “Can girls ask guys out?” because it’s a morally neutral issue that may vary from culture to culture or era to era. But Jackie and Bobby give it a shot!
Traditionally the man initiates relationships with the opposite sex because he’d rather assume the risk than have the woman do so, but it’s just not that simple anymore. Especially in our culture, courting has gotten strange. There’s a lot of ambiguity and as a result many young adult men are aloof. Sometimes guys just don’t know what’s OK anymore when it comes to pursuing a lady, so in those cases a guy may appreciate the girl initiating.
Especially when meeting in a young adult setting, you may never see that person again, so there’s no problem giving your number to him or asking for his.
There are limits to this kind of initiation, though. If the lady does clearly initiate the relationship and then the guy does not pursue, he is not husband material.
So, ladies, there is no harm in asking a guy out if you’re looking for clarity and closure. (The same goes for men, by the way.)
One last piece of advice on this matter: Ladies, if you do ask a guy out, make it clear that it’s a date.
Meet Jackie and Bobby Angel
Jackie Francois Angel is a full-time worship leader and speaker. Bobby Angel is a campus minister and theology teacher at a Catholic high school. Married in 2013, they have four beautiful children and strive to grow in holiness each day!
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