What to Do When You Mess Up

We all mess up sometimes, but what do we do about it? I heard from a listener this week who is struggling with self-loathing after messing up in a big way. She is having trouble getting past this big mistake and seeking help. In addition to offering prayers for this listener, I share my thoughts on 5 steps for anyone who has messed up in a big way or small way.

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“Allow God to be glorified in your need.”


5 Steps for Anyone Who Has Messed Up

  1. Own it.

    Admit what you did wrong without making excuses or explaining it away. Apologize to everyone you need to.

  2. Share it.

    You can talk to a trusted friend or counselor about it, but the most important place to share  your shame is in the sacrament of confession.
  1. Make amends.

    Do whatever you can to repair the harm you have done. It may not always be possible to fix it perfectly, but make every effort you can.
  1. Learn from it.

    Learn how to avoid the same mistake in the future. Learn to grow in humility. Learn to be more merciful with others when they mess up.
  1. Move on.

    Satan would love for you to get stuck in sorrow and regret. Once you have completed the steps above, the final and most important step is to move on and trust in God. God can accomplish great things in you and through you, despite your weaknesses.

At the end of today’s show, I share follow up feedback from Therese who recently had twin baby girls! The Catholic book about miscarriage I mention is After Miscarriage: A Catholic Woman’s Companion to Healing and Hope.

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Megan Madden

Megan Madden is a homeschooling mother with a passion for writing and speaking on authentic femininity and virtuous womanhood. In 2017, she began graduate studies in marriage and family at the International Theological Institute in Austria. After moving to Kraków, Poland to work with university students, Megan more personally continued her research on the complementarity of man and woman, particularly on the question of what it means to be a woman. She delved into the study of renowned Catholic writers on women such as St. Edith Stein, Gertrude von le Fort, Alice von Hildebrand, St. John Paul II, and St. Teresa of Avila.

The results were the development of Megan’s online ministry A Mother’s Lace, as well as speaking opportunities and her book with Ascension: Mary, Teach Me to Be Your Daughter.

Megan lives outside of Oxford, England with her husband, who is a lecturer in theology, and their five children.

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  1. Great Show! I have listened to this show for the last 2 years and I love it.


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