I recently realized that I had been neglecting to care for myself in some pretty basic ways. This is easy to do when life gets stressful, but sometimes we all need a nudge to do better for ourselves. Sometimes, self care looks more like everyday discipline in caring for ourselves so that we are well enough to care for others. Today I share you with some nudges to help you self care.
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“You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our hearts are restless until they rest in You.”- St. Augustine
I recently realized that I had been neglecting to care for myself in some pretty basic ways. The end result was that I was suffering chronic headaches and neck and back pain. This is unusual for me, and so I thought a bit about what might be causing it. That was when I realized that I have been avoiding working out and not getting enough rest. This is easy to do when life gets stressful, but sometimes we all need a nudge to do better for ourselves. Sometimes, self care looks more like everyday discipline in caring for ourselves so that we are well enough to care for others.
Here are some nudges I want to give you today:
Are you moving your body every day? Getting some basic forms of exercise? One Youtube I especially like for on-the-go, not-too-long workouts is Joe the Body Coach.
- Eat well
I won’t tell you how to eat, but we all know when we are not feeding ourselves well. Do you need to cut down on sugar or processed foods? Do you need to limit your alcohol or caffeine. For those who might be struggling with or wondering about the role alcohol plays in their lives, I recommend the book This Naked Mind: Control Alcohol, Find Freedom, Discover Happiness, and Change Your Life by Annie Grace.
- Get some sleep
Are you getting enough rest? Sometimes self care looks like having the discipline to take a nap in the day or to go to bed at a reasonable time. Take care of yourself like you would your own toddler by getting the rest you need.
Does your financial situation stress you out? Do you avoid looking into your finances because you are afraid of what you might find there? Are you in denial about credit card debt or other problems? Stop avoiding and take care of this. Take one small step toward finding peace in your financial situation. Compass Catholic Ministries is one resource that can help you get started.
You knew I was going to say this … you need prayer in your life! You can use the free daily Gospel prayer resources at CatholicMom.com or some other structure. The book series I love and recommend is The Better Part by Fr. John Bartunek.
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Megan Madden is a homeschooling mother with a passion for writing and speaking on authentic femininity and virtuous womanhood. In 2017, she began graduate studies in marriage and family at the International Theological Institute in Austria. After moving to Kraków, Poland to work with university students, Megan more personally continued her research on the complementarity of man and woman, particularly on the question of what it means to be a woman. She delved into the study of renowned Catholic writers on women such as St. Edith Stein, Gertrude von le Fort, Alice von Hildebrand, St. John Paul II, and St. Teresa of Avila.
The results were the development of Megan’s online ministry A Mother’s Lace, as well as speaking opportunities and her book with Ascension: Mary, Teach Me to Be Your Daughter.
Megan lives outside of Oxford, England with her husband, who is a lecturer in theology, and their five children.