How to Make a Big Decision

Are you struggling to make a big decision? It can be so distressing to weigh pros and cons and worry about the consequences of an important decision. Danielle shares ideas to assist you in your decision making.

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Do not allow indecision to steal your peace.


The Importance of Prison Ministry 

  •  Remember those who are in prison, as though in prison with them; and those who are ill-treated, since you also are in the body” (Hebrews 13:3)
  • “I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me” (Matthew 25:35)
  • And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brethren, you did it to me.’ ” (Matthew 25:40)

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Finding a Priority in the Spiritual Life 

The enemy can easily distract us in our spiritual lives by overwhelming us with a long list of action items. The best way to avoid this temptation is to focus on one goal at a time. What is one thing in your spiritual life that you can grow in?

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Remember You Can Change Your Mind

Most decisions we make, even big ones, are not truly irreversible. You can find a lot of peace by reminding yourself that if it doesn;t work out, you can always change your mind and decide something else.


Of course we need to be praying and asking God for guidance, especially about a big decision we are trying to make, but sometimes, in the stress of it all, we forget to do that. Make sure you take the time to pray about an important decision and then spend some time really listening to what God might be calling you to do.

Seek Advice

Do your research! Read books about the topic, talk to people who have experience, and look it up online. But beware of getting stuck in his stage with “analysis paralysis.” Know when enough research is enough.

Talk to People on Both Sides

Talk to people who have made the same big decision in different ways. If you are wondering about sending your kids to private school versus public school for example, spend some time talking to parents who do each of those things and ask for their honest thoughts about the costs and benefits of each choice.

Make A List

Writing down the pros and cons of any particular decision is a simple way to clarify what you are considering. Writing a list like this might make the best choice obvious,if there are many more pros than cons, for example. It can also help to take some of the ruminating out of your mind and put it on paper in a way that feels manageable and can relieve some of your stress.

Just Do It

After you have thought it through and consulted the experts and done your research and made your lists, the time has come to justdecied already! Do not get stuck in an unending decision-making mode. Make the best decision you can and trust God with the outcome!

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Megan Madden

Megan Madden is a homeschooling mother with a passion for writing and speaking on authentic femininity and virtuous womanhood. In 2017, she began graduate studies in marriage and family at the International Theological Institute in Austria. After moving to Kraków, Poland to work with university students, Megan more personally continued her research on the complementarity of man and woman, particularly on the question of what it means to be a woman. She delved into the study of renowned Catholic writers on women such as St. Edith Stein, Gertrude von le Fort, Alice von Hildebrand, St. John Paul II, and St. Teresa of Avila.

The results were the development of Megan’s online ministry A Mother’s Lace, as well as speaking opportunities and her book with Ascension: Mary, Teach Me to Be Your Daughter.

Megan lives outside of Oxford, England with her husband, who is a lecturer in theology, and their five children.

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