How to Cultivate Contentment

Do you suffer with discontent? In what way do you feel like you fall short, or your life falls short of your expectations? What things or status do you long for and wind up feeling disillusioned or disappointed?

This week we are talking about those feelings of discontent, where they come from, and how we can cultivate a greater sense of contentment with what we have and who we are.

Snippet From the Show

“Not that I complain of want; for I have learned, in whatever state I am, to be content.” –Philippians 4:11


1) Break your buying habits.

Take a careful look at your shopping habits and perhaps some of the ways you tend to buy “stuff” when feeling stressed or seeking comfort. How might God be calling you to turn to him in your need instead?

2) Examine your thoughts.

Do you find yourself thinking “I’ll be happy when X happens” or “When I get X, I will be happy.” Even if you don’t think those exact words, is that the way you approach your life? Always focused on what you don’t yet have? There will always be another thing to chase. Instead, we should focus on what we already have and how God is calling us to trust in his providence right where we are. You might read Scripture and replace some of that thinking with God’s own word. When it comes to contentment, I especially like to reflect on Philippians chapter 4.

3) Be more grateful.

You can keep getting more and seeking more, or you could choose to focus on gratitude for the blessings you already have. Write down the things you are grateful for, the things you have accomplished, and the many ways you are blessed right now.

4) Want what you have.

Contentment is a choice. We need to choose to be happy with what we have. Take stock of the good things you have, and your own strengths of character (the quiz I mentioned is here) and then look for ways to be generous with those gifts. Take the focus off of yourself and focus instead on the ways in which you can bless others with what you have been given.

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Meet Danielle Bean

A writer, speaker, wife, and mother, Danielle helps women from all walks of life discover their dignity and worth so they can find peace, balance, and joy in family living. Danielle has been married to her husband Dan for 23 years, and together they have eight amazing children. Currently, Danielle serves as brand manager at and host of The Gist, a talk show for women on CatholicTV.

Danielle’s books include, You Are Enough: What Women of the Bible Teach You About Your Mission and Worth and Momnipotent: The Not-so Perfect Guide to Catholic Motherhood, as well as her latest book, Giving Thanks and Letting Go: Reflections on the Gift of Motherhood.


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