This week I am sharing 5 skills I think every young person should work on now, if they want to get married later. These are skills that will be helpful to you no matter what vocation you are called to, but I think especially to those who are planning to be married and have families.
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“Your worth does not come from being in a relationship or being married, and your “real life” does not begin at some point in the future.“
- Establish a habit of daily prayer
It is so important to lay the foundation of your relationship with God during the years before you are married. You are made for God. Spend the time you can now, fully invested in daily prayer, and you will have that as a firm foundation for the future challenges God might call you to.
- Learn some family skills
Do you know of any young families that you could befriend or hang out with? So far beyond learning how to change a diaper or buckle a car seat (though those are helpful skills as well!) it’s helpful to know what normal family life looks like — the good and the bad — so you can have realistic expectations for your own married life.
- Learn to like yourself
Don’t live in the future! Live right now. Try new things, learn new skills, find out what you are good at and work on learning to like yourself for who you are right now. Your worth does not come from being in a relationship or being married, and your “real life” does not begin at some point in the future. Real life is happening right now. Learn to know and like yourself as you are, right now.
- Practice humility
A big part of what I have learned through family living all these years is that I am not in charge of things. I have needed to let go of the notion that I can just “do all the right things” and everything will turn out the way I want it to. It has been a humbling experience, and I really recommend learning greater humility before entering into marriage and family life as a way to spare yourself some unnecessary grief along the way.
- Give up keeping score
It’s human nature to want things to be “fair” and for everything to work out even. But it’s also human nature to notice and “count” our own contributions much more than other people’s. Learn to give without counting the cost, to love without calculating, and that virtue of generosity will help you find greater happiness in your future vocation.
In this show, I also share about The Word, the upcoming Catholic Bible Summit.
It’s free to register and you will get access to dozens of talks on Scripture from exceptional catholic speakers. My talk will be about family prayer time and ways to make it happen in your home and family. Please join us!
My newest book is one that I wrote with Dan, the Manual for Marriage, a beautiful resource for every couple. In it, Dan and I share reflective essays on marriage and family life, but it also features a large collection of prayers, Scripture passages, hymns, and stories from the saints that will encourage and support you in your married relationship.
I have received so much feedback from all of you about my newest book and the first chapter that I shared with you at the end of episode 210. Giving Thanks and Letting Go: Reflections on the Gift of Motherhood is a book in which I share from my heart about the very real changes, challenges, triumphs, and joys of being a mom in an “emptying nest.” You can read that sample chapter at Ave Maria Press. (Use the coupon code BEAN20 to get 20% off your order!)
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Megan Madden is a homeschooling mother with a passion for writing and speaking on authentic femininity and virtuous womanhood. In 2017, she began graduate studies in marriage and family at the International Theological Institute in Austria. After moving to Kraków, Poland to work with university students, Megan more personally continued her research on the complementarity of man and woman, particularly on the question of what it means to be a woman. She delved into the study of renowned Catholic writers on women such as St. Edith Stein, Gertrude von le Fort, Alice von Hildebrand, St. John Paul II, and St. Teresa of Avila.
The results were the development of Megan’s online ministry A Mother’s Lace, as well as speaking opportunities and her book with Ascension: Mary, Teach Me to Be Your Daughter.
Megan lives outside of Oxford, England with her husband, who is a lecturer in theology, and their five children.